April 2, 2014 at 3:02pm
A new trend that introduces women to Islam has swept through the west. They call it pumping the ego and telling potential converts and new muslimah’s little things like, “oh you are such beautiful radiant pearls, you belong in a shell” (not in Quran). Or some may say when you become muslim you are a “Queen, all muslim women are so honored as Queens” errrrr, enough! Reality check please? Ladies are we really buying into this? Are we really so narcissistic and arrogant that we think becoming some fantasy Queen of Islam holds more appeal over the fact we are to humble ourselves and embrace modesty over pride and arrogance? This collective behavior among muslimahs that believe they are “Queens of Islam” is very far from the beliefs of Islam altogether, don’t get your feathers ruffled for me saying so, sorry and may Allah forgive.
Nothing in Qur’an or hadith gives women superior rights over others, although we are to be respected as muslimahs regardless. However, many muslims go as far as giving women these non Quranic lables in order to keep them pumped up and gain their attention to come to Islam. Women are told that they are “Queens” that is why they must guard their modesty and keep their hands to themselves. Sometimes they are not led to ayats, taught basic principals or hadith of why they are actually covering and abstaining from intimate contact. Calling women certain words like, “Queen” or giving them royal labels is just enough to get their attention and reel in those who fall for simple flattery. “Queens have the infidels serve them!”, “Queens should be showered with guardians and manly support in order to protect them!”, “Queens should be married off to a rich Saudi prince” – who she may later divorce-certainly if she cannot accept the other “Queens” in his palace. This is pretty much the idea being sold to several women in the western hemisphere who are attracted to Islam. Forget the attraction towards the commitment to Allah alone, the beautiful stipulations and conditions for muslimahs to follow in the Qur’an. Who needs all that pure, beautiful and profound Islam when the idea of “Queens of Islam” is far more appealing for women with a superiority complex? In actuality all this queeny ego boosting seems like child’s play and very fairy tale like. Nothing about the idea of being treated like a queen or being a Queen is at all Islamic. These roles of the superior type can create a pretty selfish minded woman with a corroded heart if she really gets into role playing. Here is the definition of a Queen, “The female ruler of an independent state, esp. one who inherits the position by right of birth.” This definition of course is far from the reality of a woman’s position in Islam as we are all born equals.
There is no mention of Muslim women deserving the title of “Queen” in Qur’an simply because she converts to Islam. In fact there is often negative mention towards queens spoken of in the Qur’an. Some are looked down on for their ill practices and treatment towards their people. The word Queen itself is rarely mentioned as reference to a Muslim in Quran- unless in dealing with stories before Islam was established-like the Queen of Saba. Saba was regarded as a sun and moon worshiper. However, when she learned how misguided she was…she apologized and turned her worship towards Allah. One woman never mentioned as a Queen but the pharaoh’s wife had turned away from her thrown and towards Allah as well. Her story goes like this; Pharaoh was a merciless and wicked oppressor, his wife begged Allah to rescue her and her people from his cruel aggression. He was ruthlessly killing the born sons of women though he did not kill the women. No one dared to stand against him-out of fear-but his very own wife. He owned all of Egypt’s treasures and gifts, his wife was willing to give up all these riches in order to win and live by Islamic morality. She considered all of her husband’s worldy possessions worthless. She wanted to be rescued from her ” Queen-hood” when she said,
“My Lord, build a house in the Garden for me in Your presence, rescue me from Pharaoh and his deeds, and rescue me from this wrongdoing people.” (Surat at-Tahrim: 11)
Her superior character was not proven by her marriage to a great King or Pharaoh but by her devotion to God. “She was not attached to this worldly life but only desired Allah’s good pleasure, mercy, and Paradise. Allah relates her genuine faith as an example for all Muslims and made her superior in both worlds.” This is not an example of Queen behavior but of a good servant to Allah. She also sacrificed her title as a “Queen” for the sake of her people and to follow Allah’s guidance. Next, simply because a Muslim dresses by Islamic codes or embraces Islam does not make her a queen. There is no mention that once you put on hijab you magically turn into a queen. The fact is, you wear it to shield your body from the eyes of lustful men. Hijab is not a crown of superiority, it is to help women maintain dignity and purity. Hijab also guards men from any perverse ideals about women or prevents them from uncomfortable situations. It is viewed in Islam as mental protection for both men and women to keep them pure at mind and heart for Allah. It exemplifies as well that a woman is less of a “Queen” and more devout to God. So why do some women prefer to be labeled as queens when they are simply servants of God? Is it not enough of an honor that we have found our positions under Allah? Maybe these royal femme labels are just another way to attract women to Islam by creating some fantasy that they are all above the other humans as queens. She is sucked into her imaginary world of materialism and attempt to create a reality of something considered very sinful in Islam.
The Creation of Material Girls in Islam
Fairy tale labels have created a selfish and materialistic environment and mindset for Muslim women. They have taken away from principals in Islam that teach women on being selfless, simplistic and modest. Many “Queen Muslimahs” have also set the bar too high even for those they associate with. They believe they are truly untouchable queens. They often forget about those in this world suffering, especially if the ones suffering are not Muslims of their standards. They have become overly centered on self and have forgotten about the rest of the world. Often these “Queens” are occupied in their own game of role playing queen. All those around them are now expected to bow to their queens and lavish them with material goods and things that sparkle. I should warn you do not expect anything in return. Reminds me of Katy Perry’s dark horse video, anyways….There is no modesty I have found in this “Queen’s of Islam” ideology. Muslimah or Queen, the two do not equate or seem to be parallel when thinking of their roles in Islam. It draws and distracts women away from the reality of Islam and the internal beauty of modesty. Modesty does not only come from wearing a veil but from deep within the heart. Just as the Pharaoh’s wife was able to give from her heart of hearts and let go of a label that was also attached to material wealth. Modesty is not only represented by how a woman expresses herself but in her views of the world which are not to be motivated by materialism. These labels lead to behavioral patters that pull women away from the true principals of Islam and their roles as muslimah’s. Qur’an mentions in a specific ayat not to be distracted by materialism and greed in this world.
Here are some of those Ayat’s from Qur’an;
[9:24] Say: If your fathers and your sons and your brethren and your mates and your kinsfolk and property which you have acquired, and the slackness of trade which you fear and dwellings which you like, are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving in His way, then wait till Allah brings about His command: and Allah does not guide the transgressing people.
[9:34] O you who believe! most surely many of the doctors of law and the monks eat away the property of men falsely, and turn (them) from Allah’s way; and (as for) those who hoard up gold and silver and do not spend it in Allah’s way, announce to them a painful chastisement,
[9:55] Let not then their property and their children excite your admiration; Allah only wishes to chastise them with these in this world’s life and (that) their souls may depart while they are unbelievers.
[9:85] And let not their property and their children excite your admlration; Allah only wishes to chastise them with these in this world and (that) their souls may depart while they are unbelievers
[28:76] Surely Qaroun was of the people of Musa, but he rebelled against them, and We had given him of the treasures, so much so that his hoards of wealth would certainly weigh down a company of men possessed of great strength. When his people said to him: Do not exult, surely Allah does not love the exultant;
[57:20] Know that this world’s life is only sport and play and gaiety and boasting among yourselves, and a vying in the multiplication of wealth and children, like the rain, whose causing the vegetation to grow, pleases the husbandmen, then it withers away so that you will see it become yellow, then it becomes dried up and broken down; and in the hereafter is a severe chastisement and (also) forgiveness from Allah and (His) pleasure; and this world’s life is naught but means of deception.
[63:9] O you who believe! let not your wealth, or your children, divert you from the remembrance of Allah; and whoever does that, these are the losers.
[92:11] And his wealth will not avail him when he perishes.
[100:8] And most surely he is tenacious in the love of wealth.
[102:1] Abundance diverts you,
[104:2] Who amasses wealth and considers it a provision (against mishap);
[104:3] He thinks that his wealth will make him immortal.
[111:2] His wealth and what he earns will not avail him.
[4:29] O you who believe! do not devour your property among yourselves falsely, except that it be trading by your mutual consent; and do not kill your people; surely Allah is Merciful to you.
[4:30] And whoever does this aggressively and unjustly, We will soon cast him into fire; and this is easy to Allah.
[8:27] O you who believe! be not unfaithful to Allah and the Messenger, nor be unfaithful to your trusts while you know.
Materialism and the Prophet’s wives
[33:28] O Prophet! say to your wives: If you desire this world’s life and its adornment, then come, I will give you a provision and allow you to depart a goodly departing
The Arrogance attached to Queen Role Playing
“First one must understand what arrogance is and where it comes from. Only then he will realize how great a sin it is. Arrogance is a state of feeling important, feeling that one has a special place. Reality is taken from him and he only uses his imagination. Everyone, in reality, is nothing. Every body is from dirt and will return to dirt. One’s self is also in real need, his life, health and property are not in his hands.”
Asides from the material aspects of “Queens of Islam” there is also a bit of arrogance at work. Who are we but simply servants? What gives is the right to hold ourselves to such high and special potions as queens, without Allah’s acknowledgment? We worship God and are to follow Qur’an as best as we can. We must protect ourselves from adopting negative qualities such as arrogance. These royalty labels boost the ego greatly as women display themselves with photos labeled as “Queen”. This also backfires on the males. How is that? Men are giving women ideas that they are somehow better than the other “peasants” and deserving beyond any man’s realistic means, unless of course, he is a Saudi prince. But it is always too late before man realizes what a he creates by filling a woman’s head with these fantasies. Before he knows it his Queen will be seeking her prince and she will have no time to settle for a popper. Creating standards too high for a female and boosting her ego beyond it’s mental capacity can be a loss on both sides. So what does Quran have to say about arrogance, or adopting labels that make us superior to his other creatures?
“Allah (S.W.T.) told us the story of Iblees so that we may learn lessons from it, when he ordered him to prostrate to Adam and he rejected because of his Arrogance and Envy towards Adam, claiming that he is better than him. Allah said in surat Al-A’raaf, Verse (12), what can be translated as, “I am better than him (Adam), you created me from fire, and you created him from clay. “
“Allah (S.W.T.) says in surat Luqman, (Verse 18), what can be translated as, “And do not turn your face away from men with arrogance, nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily, Allah does not like each arrogant boaster.”
“The prophet (S.A.W.) says what was reported by Imams Bukhari and Muslim, “While a man was showing off in his garment, he looked proudly to himself, all of a sudden, Allah immediately crumbled the earth underneath him, and he is still dropping with struggle through it till the Day of Judgment.”
Allah (S.W.T.) does not look with mercy, on the Day of Judgment, at the one whom lengthened his clothes out of arrogance. The prophet (S.A.W.) says reported by Imams Bukhari, Muslim, and other, “Whosoever drags his clothes out of arrogance, Allah will not look at him on the Day of Judgment.” Abu Bakr said: “O messenger of Allah: My garment slips (slightly off his waist) to the ground but I lift it!?” The prophet replied, “You are not among those who do it out of arrogance.”
“Have you heard the tradition where the Messenger of Allah (S) was sitting with a rich person and a poor person entered and sat next to his rich brother in Islam? When he sat down the rich person tucked his clothing in and the Messenger of Allah (S) protested and asked him why he did that.
He immediately became regretful and said that there is something in me that forces me to do these bad actions (arrogance was in him). He said that he is regretful for his actions and to make it up he gave half of his belongings to his poor brother in Islam.
The Messenger of Allah (S) asked the poor person if he accepted that and he said: “No, because I am afraid that if I take it I will do the same thing to another poor person.”
I do not know why people of Islam feel we Muslimas should be labeled as queens to find contentment in ourselves or Islam. Some of us are just happy to have Allah and do find these labels as nothing but mere flattery. Islam is beautiful and so are muslimah’s without the fantasy labels. Does it really take being called a, “Queen” to convince one to love the woman she is? Women are being programmed and programming others to accept fantasy over reality. This practice will destroy a woman’s perception of the world and of her faith in Islam. When women convert solely on the belief that we are treated like and to be “Queens in Islam” and if they have a reality check, they might as well just walk away. They will find out people at the core are virtually all the same no what their faith, they will experience times were they are not respected by all Muslims even if they think they are Queens. It is like luring in a child with candy and taking it away. When called a “Queen” personally I am not flattered. I do not see myself as anything special. I am just as human as most people are, a committed Muslim and wife. I often correct others if they feel the need to give me royal labels. I outgrew fantasies before I knew what they were. All Muslims need to start looking at themselves as equals to every man the way Qur’an intended. No matter what ideas they put in your head about Islam…We are not “queens” or better than others, till God makes his own judgment. That is the reality. This idea we are Queens is innovation. There are often types of innovation -also known as bidah- sometimes we think is so innocent that we do not realize it is innovation. Bidah is regarded as a sin in Islam. Furthermore, Queens represent the opposite of a woman’s virtues in the Islamic faith. Much of what they do today and historically is everything Islam is against. Owning slaves as Queens often do is inhumane, showing off wealth is wrong and we are simply servants to Allah. Queens are selfish, materialistic women full of fantasies.. They are not the ideal role model for the female majority especially Muslim women. Many muslimah’s do not have the lifestyles of a Queen or opportunity to consider themselves as anything but slaves to their oppressors. Their sufferings surely do not give us the right to put ourselves in a position above them. We are servants to Allah. We should only put ourselves in a position to help others and not in a position above them. I feel deeply for other Muslim women who are mistreated and have great devotion, my heart goes out to them. I know Allah will have a place for them and those other sisters who reach out to and help them. Please think of others not so fortunate to even be treated as human. If Muslim women like to think of themselves as a “Queens” then perhaps they should start thinking of those suffering in their kingdom. As the hadith goes “You should want for your brothers what you want for yourself” that goes for sisters too.